Talking About Menopause: Why Open Conversations with Loved Ones Matter More Than You Think

You’re Not Crazy, You’re in Menopause But Does Anyone Else Know?

Menopause. The very word can bring a mix of understanding and maybe a little apprehension. For women going through it, the hormonal shifts can trigger a cascade of physical, emotional, and mental changes. Hot flushes, sleep disturbances, mood swings, and changes in libido are just the beginning.

But what about the partners, family members, and close friends who are witnessing it from the sidelines? How can they understand and support you when they’re not living it themselves?

The answer? Communication. Open, honest, empathetic conversations are the bridge between what you’re going through and the support you need. And they matter more than you might think.

Why It’s So Hard to Talk About Menopause

Many of us grew up in homes where menopause was whispered about or avoided altogether. The dominant message? Suffer quietly and get on with it.

No wonder so many women feel awkward or unsure about opening up.

Common barriers:

• Fear of being dismissed: “Isn’t that just part of getting older?”

• Not wanting to burden others with your symptoms

• Struggling to explain what you’re feeling—especially with brain fog or mood shifts

• Not fully understanding what’s happening yourself (perimenopause can be confusing!)
  

But here’s the truth: silence creates distance. Speaking up is what invites understanding and connection.

Why Talking About Menopause Matters

Menopause is a life transition, just like puberty or pregnancy. And like those milestones, it doesn’t just affect you, it ripples through your relationships. The more openly you talk about it, the more support, empathy, and relief you allow in.

1. Empathy Builds Connection

When you share what you're going through, you invite others to meet you with compassion. It’s not complaining, it’s connection. The more they understand, the more they can support.

2. Support Reduces Symptom Stress

Research shows social support can actually reduce how intense menopause symptoms feel. A little understanding goes a long way.

3. Isolation Makes Everything Harder

Hormonal shifts already affect your mood. If you add loneliness into the mix, it can increase your risk for anxiety and depression. Talking helps ease that emotional load.

4. Strength Comes From Vulnerability

There’s power in saying, “I’m not okay.” When you ask for what you need, you give your loved ones the chance to step up and show up for you.

5. Stigma Thrives in Silence

Every time you talk openly about menopause, you break the cycle of shame. You normalise it for yourself, your friends, and future generations of women.

How to Talk to Loved Ones About Menopause: 6 Tips for Getting Started

Starting the conversation can feel awkward but it doesn’t have to be heavy or confrontational. Try these gentle, practical steps:

1. Pick a Calm Moment

Don’t launch into a hormone monologue mid-argument. Choose a relaxed time after dinner, during a walk, or while driving.

Try: “I’ve been going through some changes lately, and I’d really appreciate the chance to talk about it.”

2. Speak From Your Own Experience

Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. Share how you feel, not what others are doing wrong.

Try: “I’ve noticed I get really overwhelmed in the evenings. I think it’s the combination of hormones, fatigue, and trying to do too much.”

3. Educate Gently (If Needed)

Not everyone knows what perimenopause or estrogen dominance means and that’s okay.

Try: “One of the symptoms is brain fog, which is why I’ve been more forgetful lately. It’s not about being careless, it’s hormonal.”

4. Be Clear About What You Need

Most people want to help - they just don’t know how. Make it easier for them.

Try:
“I’m not looking for a fix, just a bit of understanding.”
or
“When I’m feeling irritable, a little space or a cup of tea would really help.”

5. Make It a Conversation, Not a Monologue

Let your loved ones share how they’re feeling too. It’s okay if they don’t get it perfect right away, the important thing is keeping the door open.

6. Seek Support Together if Needed

If menopause is impacting your relationship significantly, consider seeing a therapist or counsellor who understands hormone transitions. Support for both of you can make a huge difference.

Final Thought: Your Experience Deserves a Voice

Menopause isn’t just physical - it’s emotional, relational, and transformational. You shouldn’t have to carry it alone.

When you start the conversation, you give yourself permission to be supported. And you invite your loved ones to understand you more deeply.

You are not a burden. You are worthy of care, empathy, and connection.

So go ahead. Let the people who love you love you better. 

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